Archive for March, 2010
Top 10 Mistakes We Make With Our Children Everyday (Part 4)
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Mistake Eight. Giving them privileges they didn’t earn.
After all of the back talk, temper tantrums, hitting, biting, etc. you tell them, “Let’s go to McDonald’s!” What? Would your boss reward you for arriving late to work, never finishing a task, or treating your co-workers unprofessionally? “Hey, I would like to give you a bonus for all your bad behavior!” What?
Mistake Nine. Allowing children to run away from you (ie. parking lots, store aisles)
Where are the parents? The child is in aisle 9 while you are in aisle 6. You come out the store and your child dashes across the street in front of a oncoming traffic. Could this behavior have something to do with how you treat your child at home? If children are allowed to do whatever they wanted at home, they will do whatever they want elsewhere.
Mistake Ten. Not allowing your child to be a child.
Some children act more adult than their parents. They are expected to babysit their siblings, clean the household, cook meals, and help their parents with whatever they command on a regular basis leaving no room for playing games, reading, socializing with friends, or anything else. When the child shares a personal interest with the parent, they are silenced with yet another adult request. The parent doesn’t do anything to encourage their children’s’ hobbies or interests because they will interfere with mostly the parents money and personal time. Eventually, the child will rebel.
Now that you realize why your child at times give you and others so many problems, rather than nodding your head in agreement, create a plan to correct their behavior and yours too.
If you are interested in the tool to create the plan, get our Workshop@Home DVD series here. God bless you parents!
Top 10 Mistakes We Make With Our Children Everyday (Part 3)
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Mistake Six. No structure or discipline.
Children are not like adults, they enjoy routine. They follow schedules if you give them one and practice it with them faithfully. Before long they will be performing tasks with little input. This way you won’t have to discipline them as much. However, some parents don’t discipline their children for anything. The child runs the house. This type of behavior may be acceptable in one’s home, but in the real world, people will not allow a child to run their store, school, library, restaurant or any other public place.
Mistake Seven. Not demanding they respect you.
The scenario goes like this, you tell your child to do something and he or she says, “No.” You tell them again and your child roars, “I’m not doooiiinnnggg itttt !” So you do it for them and never say nothing more. Then the episodes that follow continue with this same behavior and still you do nothing, but then again maybe you do, “Now stop that or else.” You never establish what else is and you give them chance after chance and still they don’t straighten up.
We’ll conclude this series with mistakes 8-10 next time. Don’t forget to subscribe to the blog so you don’t miss it!
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Top 10 Mistakes We Make With Our Children Everyday (Part 2)
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Mistake Three. Doing everything for them.
A child should be raised to be independent and responsible for his or her lifestyle. With that said, why are parents cleaning up things they can do themselves? Give them tasks the can handle, so that they learn not to rely on others to do things they are perfectly capable of handling.
Mistake Four. Never telling them “no.”
You are repeatedly interrupted by your child’s requests and gradually you become angrier and angrier, yet you fulfill them anyway. Then when you can’t meet their needs when they want, you decide to discipline them. Do you see what’s wrong? The child has developed a pattern with you and eventually he or she will expect others to do what you do; unfortunately they will learn the hard way.
Mistake Five. Speaking gibberish.
Once a child reaches a certain age to say the English words to describe common items, why not teach them the right words? You may know what your child is saying, but the babysitter and relatives will not be able to meet your child’s needs when they don’t know what he or she is saying.
We’ll continue this series with mistakes 6 & 7 next time. Don’t forget to subscribe to the blog so you don’t miss it!
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