The Verbalizing Dad – Part 3

Now that you know the importance of being a verbalizing dad (or mom), here is a snapshot of Action Points for the Verbalizing Dad:

● With your daughter, think “face-to-face” love — a direct approach. With your son, think “shoulder-to-shoulder,” although he needs some “face-to-face” love too.

● When you’re correcting or disciplining your child, remind yourself that you need to express your love for him even in that situation.

● Express your love for your children verbally. Talk about the pride that swells in you when you see them in particular situations. Praise a character trait or an accomplishment. Or just look in their eyes and say, “You know, it’s really great being your dad.”

● Do your kids ever say, “If you loved me, you would …”? Don’t get dragged into those arguments. Just keep loving him or her, and let your actions speak for themselves.

● Count the number of affirming touches you give your kids in a day, then seek to double it the next day … and again the next.

● Take very seriously the way you model for your kids who God is as their heavenly Father. You can’t be perfect, but strive to love them unconditionally … and seek their forgiveness when you don’t.

● Take the time to Write a Letter of love and affirmation to your kids. There is nothing more powerful for a kid, than a keepsake letter from their dad. I have one from my dad framed in my office from when I was about 13 years old. My girls have letters tacked up in their room or folded in their diary from me to them. When writing letters, describe positive character qualities, and give examples whenever possible.

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